Sometimes pressure from certain teachers can feel a bit overwhelming. This can lead to possibly pushing back in class e.g. by not completing the work, or getting distracted in lessons.
Whether it’s constant homework or high expectations, it’s important to know that you’re not alone in feeling tense in certain situations.
But teachers really are there to help us, so I want to talk through some ideas on how to get on better with your teacher, if you’re struggling.
Teachers want the best for you
Sometimes, teachers may push you a little bit harder to help you. They see your potential, and alongside that have their own deadlines and expectations to manage.
It may feel like they’re giving you too much work or being strict, they’re often just trying to prep you for the future, like exams or university.
How you can navigate this…
Be honest with your teacher. If a particular subject or assignment is stressing you out, or you’re finding the classes hard to focus in, try talking to your teacher.
You could schedule in a private chat with them, or email them, and politely let them know what you’re struggling with.
They might not even realise what’s going on, and by explaining what’s going on they can then help with giving you personalised support.
Keep the conversation going
If talking to the teacher isn’t an option, or talking to them hasn’t solved things, then
it’s important to keep the conversation going.
This could be with the teacher you originally spoke to, another teacher you trust, or a pastoral team member.
Sometimes it takes a bit of repetition to be heard, but it’s well worth talking about if it’s still weighing on you.
Ideally, you should also speak to a parent about what’s going on, so they can help you manage the situation or speak up on your behalf.
And if the situation is really affecting your mental health, making you feel more low or stressed than not, it’s important to go to a doctor for help.
Organise your time
If you’re struggling in particular with lots of homework and exams, planning can help you get through your workload better. In turn, planning can also help you have a better relationship with your teacher.
- Break big tasks into smaller pieces – e.g. if you have an essay due in a week, work on a bit each day instead of doing it the night before
- A physical or digital planner, journal or calendar can help you stay on track and prioritise
- Try to limit distractions during your homework time – e.g. keep your phone in another room or set it to “do not disturb”
Practise self-care
When we haven’t been giving ourselves enough love, this can mean we struggle in other ways e.g. our focus in school or feeling moody, so it’s really important to make time for yourself.
This could mean…
- taking breaks from homework to do things you love
- meeting up with friends
- exercising – like going for a walk or dancing
- trying meditation or deep breathing
Taking care of yourself is just as important as doing well in school
There’s no shame in asking for help! It’s easy to get caught up in wanting to constantly please your teachers and meet their expectations, but your mental health and happiness are equally important. If you are struggling, reach out to your teacher, a parent or an adult you trust for support – they will want to help!
By Karis Harwood
